5 ways to show love through listening:
1. Attention ⠀
Pay attention, listen, and learn what others are saying and how they are saying it. When we give our full attention it shows we care because it shows that they matter.⠀
“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak…” -James 1:19 ⠀
2. Interest ⠀
Being interested in someone else’s life is a choice. If you find yourself saying in your head, I don’t care, while someone is talking, you’ve stopped listening.
“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” -Philippians 2:3-4⠀ ⠀
Being empathetic means thinking about how it feels to be someone else. Even if you haven’t experienced what they have, imagine what it is like to be them. Find a way to see from their point of view. If someone is struggling, this doesn’t mean taking on what they are going through and trying to fix it for them. To be empathetic is to attempt to understand even if it is out of your experience. ⠀ ⠀
There are two key steps to understanding:⠀
– Reserve judgement.⠀
– Keep opinion and advice to a minimum, unless asked what you think.⠀
A way to demonstrate understanding is to ask questions. Ask clarifying questions that lead into further understanding.⠀ ⠀
Encouragement is so important. When you listen, that’s when you will know how and when to encourage. ⠀
“Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality.” -Romans 12:9-13
"The biggest communication problem is that
we do not listen to understand, we listen to reply."
- Stephen R. Covey
San Diego, CA Couples, Engagement, & Family Photographer
Jessica Francis Photography
San Diego, CA (Ventura Co, CA Jan 2021)
Golden Light Portrait &
"Jessica is a talented photographer who I’ve trusted to capture our memories on multiple occasions. She is patient and goes above and beyond for her clients. She is one of the kindest people I’ve ever met. She makes sure to listen to what you’re looking for in a photo session and ensures she meets your expectations."